You can always help your heartbroken friends by referring them to this article which talks about ways you can use self therapy to get over heartbreak.
Oftentimes, we hear people saying they can’t get over the pain of splitting with their partners but you can always help them by referring them to this article which talks about ways you can use self therapy to get over heartbreak.
TripHobo for YourTango lists a few ways you can get over you heartbreak by self-therapy:
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Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick and pull yourself together: Elizabeth Taylor rightly quipped about a break up,’ Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick and pull yourself together’.
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Break-ups are hard: Especially if you are the one being dumped! There are many ways to handle a breakup; some hilarious, others disturbing and very few that are practical. So instead of making a bonfire of your ex’s belongings, pack up your own and head on the trip of your lifetime! It might not be the first thing that comes to the mind but it is a great way to ‘detach’ and ‘detox’ from the past. #Relationships are challenging. With ungrateful compromises and uncomfortable silences, relationships sometimes grow into dull, vapid routines that require so much mental and emotional work. Being single after a long, tedious and unpleasant relationship could be quite liberating if we can just go past the whining and the false notion of dependence. Travelling will open your mind. Some might call it running away but sometimes it’s better to escape a situation that is not in your control and protect yourself from further emotional deterioration. #Travelling after a breakup serves more than one purpose:
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Switch off unpleasant memories: You can switch off and shut off the unpleasant memories that haunt you when you visit the same places and do the same things that you used to as a couple.
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If you are relaxed, other side is jealous: It could be a good way to seek the much-needed revenge from your ex! Imagine your ex’s frustration when he/she finds out that you are off on a relaxing holiday whereas he/she is stuck in the same office and the same routine!
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Meet new people: Travelling is a great way to meet new people. Who knows, the next Mr./Ms. Right might be waiting for you on a boat in Vietnam! Even if you don’t meet your next #lover, you will surely go back with new #friends.
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A great escape from questions: Have you noticed the expression on everybody’s face after a breakup? It is a combination of sympathy and wicked satisfaction mingled with ‘How’re you holding up’ and ‘I knew he/she wasn’t right for you’. Won’t it be great to escape that!?
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Find yourself: Travelling will help you find yourself. It’s easy to lose individuality in a relationship, you are always trying to be someone else for the sake of your lover. But when you are travelling, there will no one to judge you or boss you around!
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Travelling is like a much needed breath: Travelling helps to reflect on yourself. How many of us give time to ourselves? As David Brown rightly put it,’ what is this life if full of care, there is not time to stand and stare’. Travelling is like a much needed breath of air after the stifling life in the city. Travelling will give you a chance to think about what you want from life, what went wrong and how you need to move on
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Get busy with strangers: When you push yourself in a new place with strangers around, your mind has no time to think about the past and moan over the spilt milk. Most of your mind space would go into surviving and organizing. A great way to divert your mind!
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Go hiking: Go on a #yacht, rent a tent or go hiking. A new experience will clear your weary mind and lighten your shoulders of the #emotional burden. A lot of people would prefer travelling with friends which is a great option to unwind and have some fun along with having the comfort of a shoulder to cry on. Travelling alone would do wonders. It would force you to face yourself, know yourself and reconnect with your individual #goals and #dreams. Travelling broadens horizons. When you come back from your trip, you will have shifted focus from obsessing over that one incident to a broader range of possibilities that your life awaits. Even though travelling is no panacea, it helps to de-clutter your mind and look at the world as this big, huge place where small things like #breakups are mere hiccups that are fluid and transitional in #nature. Like someone once truly said,’ You can’t start a new chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one’. It’s better to move on than to pick up the broken pieces.
