Popular preacher and televangelist Pastor Chris Oyakhilome has stirred conversations with his recent take on marriage, urging men to view their wives as their “first daughter” rather than their “mate.”
In a viral video circulating online, the LoveWorld Incorporated leader explained that when a man sees his wife as his equal, he may become easily frustrated by her actions because of higher expectations. However, if he sees her as his daughter, he will be more gracious and understanding.
Pastor Chris’ Full Statement:
“Take your wife as your first daughter, more than as your mate. If you take her as your mate, you will be offended at the things she does because you expect more from her. If you take her as your daughter, you will be gracious, and you will overlook all the nonsense.”
Mixed Reactions Follow Online
Pastor Chris’ remarks have sparked debates, with some agreeing with his perspective and others questioning his analogy.
Some reactions include:
🔹 @sirjokesinfo: “Man of God, so if we want to sleep with her at night, should I still think of her as my daughter? Asking for my best friend.”
🔹 @SemiNigerian: “In the real sense, what he said makes so much sense. Because if you see her as a mate, you both will fight endlessly.”
🔹 @kingRoye: “All those saying he’s a divorcee, so he can’t teach about marriage— I hope you don’t read Paul’s message on marriage because he never married. Or Jesus’ messages on sin because he never sinned. You’re all hypocrites and liars.”
🔹 @johnnyblaze_404: “What the Bible says is clear. What religious men and motivational speakers say will just make you wonder which side of the Bible they read.”
"Take your wife as your first daughter, not as your mate"
— Dami’ Adenuga (@DAMIADENUGA) March 29, 2025
– Pastor Chris Oyakhilome pic.twitter.com/eFKvQhmrxp
While some see Pastor Chris’ analogy as a call for men to be more patient and nurturing, others argue that it conflicts with biblical teachings on marriage.
